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The smell of fried potatoes seeped from my car as I pulled into the orphanage that November evening. I didn't fully appreciate what that smell meant until I saw them — small hands beating on metal window plates, older boys howling with laughter from inside, the whole place vibrating with a kind of desperate, joyful hunger.

Twenty-four young men were waiting for me. Not just for the food. For the feast. For the moment.

I had brought what I could — a hunk of banana bread, some fried potatoes, mango juice in quarter-filled plastic cups. By any American standard, it wasn't much. By the standard of boys whose daily meal was corn flour porridge and vegetables, it was everything.

Before we ate, one of the boys — Edige — piped up from the back of the room. I couldn't quite make out what he was saying over the noise. He said it again, louder. "To play. To play."

I stood there confused, the day's vocabulary words still on the chalkboard behind me, until it clicked. "Oh — to pray," I said. "Would you like to pray, or shall I find a volunteer?"

Every eye in the room turned to Patrick. He stood without hesitation and recited the Lord's Prayer in English, clear and unhurried, while twenty-three other boys stood perfectly still. I raised my quarter-filled plastic cup of mango juice. "Happy Thanksgiving." "Happy Thanksgiving!" they replied, lifting their cups.

At the end of the meal, I unlocked the door and opened the metal windows. The little ones who had been waiting outside rushed in immediately, scouring every surface for leftovers. The older boys raised their hands to show them — nothing left. Some of the younger ones were visibly upset. One went through the trash, sipping the last drops from juice containers.

I drove home on that dark dirt road I had come to know like the back of my hand, and the tears just came. These boys — intelligent, disciplined, compassionate, funny — boys whose future prospects for even a remotely decent standard of living were, through no fault of their own, remarkably slim.

Before dinner I had asked them to write down a few things they were thankful for. I didn't correct their grammar. I wanted their words exactly as they wrote them.

• For stars in the sky for when I see I feeling better, no matter.

• For our country because Rwanda is good, there is peace, life is good, and no fighting.

• For my mother who gave birth to me. She didn't abort me. She didn't leave me alone in the 1994 genocide when I was born.

• For Steven Keith Hays because he is good teacher. I love him because he loves his students better than other people. Nothing we give him, but God bless him.

I have sat at a lot of Thanksgiving tables in my life. I have said the word "thankful" more times than I can count, in the easy, reflexive way you say it when everything is fine and the table is full.

That evening in Rwanda, in a cinder-block classroom lit by a single fluorescent bulb, twenty-four boys taught me what the word actually means.

I flew home a few weeks later. I have never forgotten their faces. And every November, when I sit down at my own table, I think about Patrick standing up to pray. I think about those quarter-filled cups raised in the air.

And I am genuinely, finally, thankful.

Steve Hays is a fiduciary financial advisor based in Annapolis, Maryland, and founder of Connect Rwanda, a nonprofit connecting U.S. teachers with Rwandan schools. SteveConnected.com is his place for stories about AI, life design, adventure, and the second half of life.